Don’t Just Show Up—Be All There

You’ve heard us say it before: Seize the day. But we’re not just talking about grand gestures or big family events. It’s about the small, everyday moments—the ones that slip by if we’re not careful.

And yes, that means putting your phone down.

When you’re with your kids, be with your kids. Not halfway. Not in-between tasks. Not distracted by work, sports updates, or notifications.

We’re talking about focused attention.

The Gift Your Kids Actually Want

Most kids won’t say, “Dad, I’d like a meaningful moment of intentional connection with you.” They’ll just ask you to play catch. Or help with homework. Or sit beside them while they doodle.

They want your presence. Not perfect words or a magical parenting move. Just time and attention—undivided and fully present.

This isn’t about quality time versus quantity time. Kids rarely make that distinction. What they remember are the moments when Dad was all in. Even five focused minutes can matter more than an hour of distracted “togetherness.”

Show Up With Your Whole Self

Think of focused attention as a secret signal: it tells your kids, You matter. You’re worth my most limited resources—my time and my attention.

When your child wants to talk, try this:

• Pause the TV.
  
  
• Close the laptop.
  
  
• Put the phone screen down (face down).
  
  
• Turn toward them. Make eye contact. Get on their level if they’re small.
  
  

That’s active listening. And it speaks louder than any “I love you.”

Your New Dad Routine: Micro Moments that Matter

You don’t need an elaborate plan. Just a few intentional habits can change everything:

• Grab a quick ice cream or coffee together—just the two of you.
  
  
• Turn bedtime into your connection zone. Recap the day. Ask a heart question. Pray together.
  
  
• Use car rides. No distractions. Just drive and talk.
  
  

Over time, these small deposits build up trust, confidence, and lasting connection.

A Challenge: Ask the Hard Question

Want a radical dad move? Ask your kids this:
“When do you feel like you have my full attention?”

Their answer might sting. Or it might surprise you. Either way, it gives you a blueprint for what they need more of.

And when they do get your full attention, watch how they light up. That’s the power you carry.