Maybe Do LESS Good this Holiday Season?

The Championship Fathering blog by Carey Casey

In December, more people are looking for ways to give and bless others. And that’s a good thing. I am inspired by many things I see happening to help people.

But one dad I know says his family is almost overwhelmed right now because of all the requests to donate money, supplies, used clothes, and time during the holidays.

child holding Christmas gift waist downHe’s all about helping; he’s glad his children’s schools are organizing people to give and serve in various ways. But he has three children, and each one of them might have two or three benevolence projects at school. Then you add a couple ways the family wants to help people through their church, and maybe a project he wants to organize as a family, and now they’re looking at ten or twelve different giving and serving opportunities. And all during a time when there’s plenty of activity already.

Have you ever been there, dad? No one wants to complain about being part of a charity project or event, but sometimes there are just too many.

Now, I believe one of the reasons we’re all here on earth is to love and serve others. Maybe the best lesson here is to be proactive all year ‘round about meeting the needs of others Tweet this! . And if your family isn’t doing much to help others during the holidays, then I believe you’re missing out. It really is more rewarding to give than to receive. Those are fantastic experiences and will be memorable for your children.

But there are also families that are going to be rushed, stressed, and overextended. During the holidays, it’s up to you, dad, to take the lead and help your family find a balance. Tweet this! Your family can’t do everything! If you need to, it’s okay to say, “Sorry, we just can’t.”

And as you decide which things not to do, I would say keep the ones that reinforce your family’s top values and priorities, and bring you together as a family.

Another dad talked about how his family goes caroling every year. You don’t see people doing that like you used to. But this family doesn’t have a lot of money, and that’s one way they can bless others in their community and bring smiles to faces. Even better because they’re doing it together.

So, to summarize:

  • Do find ways to serve and bless others at Christmas, especially as a family.
  • But don’t let those become just more items on your household to-do list. If you can’t do it with joy and the right attitude, consider taking a step back.
  • Remember, it’s really about finding meaningful ways to celebrate the things that mean most to you and your family during this season, whatever they might be—maybe your faith, family togetherness, cherished traditions, etc.

How does your family reach out to others at Christmastime? Tweet this! I’d love to hear about them. Please share either below or at our Facebook page.


Carey CaseyCarey Casey is the CEO of the National Center for Fathering (NCF), as well as a husband, father, and grandfather. He is author of Championship Fathering, co-author of It’s Great Being a Dad, and general editor of The 21-Day Dad’s Challenge. See more about Carey here.

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