One of my readers posted this New Year’s Resolution on the Fathers.com Facebook wall:
Yes! I love reading things like that!
I don’t want to be a downer, but I also know that most New Year’s resolutions don’t last longer than about a month, so here’s an idea for helping you keep your fathering resolutions …
Take our Championship Fathering Profile right now to assess your role as a father. Then, to make sure you keep your commitments, schedule some time right now to take the profile again in June or July.
The profile gives you feedback on the 6 areas of Championship Fathering, including …
- How involved you are in your children’s lives.
- How consistent you are in dealing with your children.
- How well you connect and cooperate with your children’s mother.
The profile will give you insight into how you can become a better role model and coach to your children. For example, you might not connect the two, but spending time with your spouse without your children will help your relationship with your wife and with your kids.
By protecting one-on-one time with your spouse, you show your children that you value your marriage. And this will set the stage for your children to value their future relationships.
Here’s another thing you might not think about every day: consistency. The profile serves as a great reminder that setting consistent expectations allows your children to feel confident in their behavior. If you aren’t consistent, your children will not behave consistently … and everyone will feel frustrated.
So go take the profile, right now! (If you’re brave—and serious about improving as a dad—have your spouse or older children take the profile about you.)
And then let us know how you plan to improve on your fathering by posting a comment below or sharing with us on our Facebook page.
Happy New Year!
P.S. Be easy on yourself as you take the profile and review your results. The profile is meant to be a reference point and provide feedback; your desire to be a better dad is really the most important factor.
Carey Casey is the CEO of the National Center for Fathering, a nonprofit organization dedicated to changing the culture of fathering in America by enlisting 6.5 million fathers who to make the Championship Fathering Commitment. NCF believes that every child needs a dad they can count on, and uses its resources to inspire and equip men to be the involved fathers, grandfathers and father figures their children need. Subscribe to his weekly email tip by clicking here: “Yes! I want tips on how to be a great dad who loves, coaches, mentors, and inspires my children.”