Dad, how are you using your courage and strength? A few weeks back, I featured some comments on video from Cedric Finley, a father-trainer here in Kansas City. (Maybe we need to start calling him “Cedric the Enter-Trainer.”)
Cedric trains dads using our Quenching the Father-Thirst curriculum. That material is targeted toward dads who are in tough situations, who may be trying to get their lives on the right course. During the time we spent with Cedric, he made some powerful comments about how he often sees those dads “getting it” when it comes to their fathering. Watch how he describes it:
He said it so well, I almost hesitate to add anything. I’ll just drive home a few thoughts …
When men really grasp the potential of the role they play in their children’s lives, it often changes them, motivates them, calls them to something higher and better. As you listened to Cedric describe this and watched him stand up to demonstrate that inner commitment in the men, did you want to stand up too, like I did? Did you feel that overwhelming feeling of pride that you are a dad, and it’s a noble calling?
We know some guys really are out robbing and stealing (or worse), having babies with more than one woman, and not taking care of their kids. I hope that isn’t your story.
But are you using your strength and courage to fight for your children and your wife and your community? Maybe your best time and energy is going to your job and impressing your boss. Maybe your number-one passion right now is fantasy football or keeping your lawn nice or building something cool in your garage. Maybe you’re even pursuing something good, like a community or church outreach where you’re helping people.
I would call you out today, dad. Stand tall for your kids! Take on the challenge of being a great dad. Be that man, that leader, that servant … that father your children need.
Action Points for Dads on the Journey
- Are your children important to you? Tell them! Make it clear that you’re committing yourself to be the best father you can be for them. (Consider writing it in a letter at some point, too.)
- A large part of the strength and courage of fatherhood is needed to be intentional as a dad and keep your priorities straight. So …
- What promises or commitments have you made to your children? Make sure you’re following through.
- Think ahead and anticipate what your child will need from you six months from now. Start preparing yourself now to meet those needs.
- Carve out time to connect with your child regularly or even daily. Defend that time; block it off on your calendar; make it a priority even when it isn’t convenient.
- One great way to “stand up” as a dad is to make a commitment to Championship Fathering. Find out more and make your commitment here.
- Please share: When did you have a “fatherhood epiphany,” where you realized the importance and the great potential of your role in your children’s lives? Please join the discussion either below or on our Facebook page.
Carey Casey is the CEO of the National Center for Fathering, a nonprofit organization dedicated to changing the culture of fathering in America by enlisting 6.5 million fathers who to make the Championship Fathering Commitment. NCF believes that every child needs a dad they can count on, and uses its resources to inspire and equip men to be the involved fathers, grandfathers and father figures their children need. Subscribe to his weekly email tip by clicking here: “Yes! I want tips on how to be a great dad who loves, coaches, mentors, and inspires my children.