Jeff found out that his 14-year-old daughter has a boyfriend, and it caught him off guard. “She’s too young!” he…
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Your teenage daughter heads out the door for an evening with friends and you call out, “Have a good time.” She stops, turns around, and snaps, “How dare you tell me what to do.”
Be ready dad. When those chances come to spend time with your teenager, don’t miss ‘em.
Roy has a thirteen-year-old son named Sam. As you might expect with a father of an early teenager, satisfying connection times are hit-and-miss.
All Ray wanted to do was use the phone. He picked up the receiver and got ready to dial but his 16-year-old son Jeff was on the phone with a friend. Before Ray could put the receiver down, something about Jeff’s hushed tone made him listen. "I’ve got $20. That should be enough to set us up for the weekend", he heard Jeff say. Curious, Ray listened a little longer as Jeff and his friend peppered their conversation with strange words like "blunts", "pocket rockets", and "hot sticks."
In a significant study on adolescent development, researchers Schneider & Stevenson note that teenagers perceive their fathers more positively than what is commonly believed. Though the father/child relationships went through periods of "some conflict and identity formation," they were "not as turbulent as others have depicted." For the most part, adolescents described their fathers as supportive, loving, and accepting of them.
Research on adolescent development by Child Trends notes that teens and their behaviors frequently “cluster”: good or bad behaviors (and good or bad peers) tend to come in groups. For instance, if your teen is struggling academically, he is likely to add a group of other negative behaviors, such as smoking, taking drugs, binge drinking or risky sexual behavior; and he will likely associate with friends who struggle with those same issues. As the number of negative behaviors increases, teens will isolate themselves in groups that have similar behaviors. Clearly, this phenomenon presents enormous challenges for fathers who hope to intervene and help their adolescents.
To tattoo or not to tattoo. That is a very common question these days.
A dad named Maurice wrote us with a real hot question. His teenage son is active in the church and well respected by almost everyone … and he wants to get a tattoo.
Even dads who do a great job through the first dozen years can hit a snag when it comes to dealing with teenagers. I have a friend named Martin who knows what makes an effective father. I've watched him go through the early stages of fatherhood with good success. But when his children arrived at adolescence, he "hit the wall."
When your high school junior or senior is on the verge of dropping out, what can you do?
David and his wife are struggling with their 17-year-old daughter. Her attitude is, "I don't care about school." She'd rather be hanging out with her friends.
Dad, don't you wonder—and worry—about your child's future career path? If your kids are like mine, people started characterizing them from an early age: "Wow, she has long fingers. She'll be a great piano player some day." Or, "He loves to push buttons and figure out how things work. I bet he'll grow up to be an engineer."