Where are you in your fathering journey—and how can you tell?
Men have a reputation for refusing to stop and ask for directions. But many of us love our gadgets, so we enjoy using our GPS on the dashboard or the smart phone to help us navigate.
To help you navigate life as a dad, we’ve developed a new online tool: our Championship Fathering Profile, or CFP. We like to think of the Profile as a kind of “fathering GPS system,” with clear road maps to help you move in the right direction with your kids. Based on your answers to a series of questions, we help you assess your fathering: where you’re strong and where you have room to improve.
Here at the National Center for Fathering, we believe there is great value in dads getting feedback on how they’re doing. Taking time to measure your progress as a dad is vital if you want to do your best for your kids.
The CFP is online at fathers.com/profile. You can go there right now and take it. It only takes about twenty minutes.
What will it tell you? Well, say for example you have a strong emotional connection to your child. That will come out in the CFP, so you’ll be affirmed and challenged to make the most of that strength.
Maybe you had a tough home life as a child; maybe you didn’t have a great relationship with your dad. That too will show up, and you’ll get some perspective on how that affects your fathering as well as some ways to address it, so you can leave a stronger legacy for your kids.
How well do you resolve conflicts? Or lead your family morally and spiritually? Or work as a team with your child’s mother? How involved are you in your child’s education? You can get feedback on all that … and more.
To be clear, the CFP isn’t a test that you’re trying to pass; there’s no perfect score you’re trying to get. And it can’t predict how your children will turn out. But it does give you an accurate reading of where you are as a dad based on your honest responses. Then, we give you some “next steps” to help you start working on the weaker areas.
We’re hearing from dads that taking the CFP is an eye-opening experience. Plus, it helps you to map out a plan specific to you and your kids.
I hope you’ll go to fathers.com/profile and get started—then share it with other dads you know.
As you do, keep this in mind: No matter where you are in the fathering journey or what your strengths and challenges might be, a high commitment to your children will be one of the biggest difference-makers in your fathering. Your determination to be there for them and meet their needs is a huge factor in overcoming the obstacles.
What are some other ways you get feedback on how you’re doing as a father? And what have you learned from that feedback? Feel free to join the discussion below or on our Facebook page.
Action Points for Dads on the Fathering Journey
- Find out where you need “directions” in your fathering. Take our Championship Fathering Profile and use the follow-up tools to help you address that challenge.
- Are you really brave? After you take the profile and print your results, ask your kids’ mom (and maybe your older kids) to take the profile with you in mind, then compare the scores.
- Ask your children, “What can I do to be a better dad?” Take their answers to heart … but also make sure their answers are accurate and not based on some other motives.
- Based on your CFP results, tell your children about one area you’re working to improve, and tell them how important it is for you to be the best dad you can be.
- Want the best possibility that you’ll become a better dad using the CFP? Challenge another dad or group of dads to take the Profile, then get together and discuss your results. Continue to pursue your goals together, so you can encourage one another and hold each other accountable.
Carey Casey is the CEO of the National Center for Fathering, a nonprofit organization dedicated to changing the culture of fathering in America by enlisting 6.5 million fathers who to make the Championship Fathering Commitment. NCF believes that every child needs a dad they can count on, and uses its resources to inspire and equip men to be the involved fathers, grandfathers and father figures their children need. Subscribe to his weekly email tip by clicking here: “Yes! I want tips on how to be a great dad who lives out loving, coaching and modeling for my children.