Archive for 2007
Thursday, November 15, 2007
Reprinted with permission from: www.TheFatherLife.com.
As a single father of a twelve-year old boy, I am beginning to understand that fatherhood really is an art. Among other things I am learning that as much as I'd like to continue the semi-dictatorial regime that once ruled my home, the future is turning out to be much more democratic. My soon-to-be-teenager has regime changes in mind and is becoming less and less receptive to "because I said so" and more inclined toward a participatory form of parenting and decision-making—one that sometimes stretches the limits of my imagination as well as my patience and puts everything I thought I knew to the test.
Monday, November 12, 2007
As fathers, we would do well to admit up front that none of us has "arrived." We all have room to improve, and we should all be diligent about figuring out where we need to grow and then actively seeking to be more effective in those areas.
Monday, November 5, 2007
People attending our events have requested more practical information on discipline, and we know all dads (and moms) will benefit from the practical ideas presented by Dr. Bob Barnes. He teaches that children learn best from experiencing the natural consequences of their actions, and it's pointless for parents to get caught up in power struggles with their kids.
Thursday, November 1, 2007
The teen years can be the best of times and the worst of times. At no other time in your child's life can things be more trying. One common mistake made by loving parents is that they don't give teens enough responsibility soon enough. Too often parents don't trust the values they have instilled over the years, so they attempt to force values on their children in adolescence, and the children rebel.
Monday, October 22, 2007
When was the last time your children accused you of being out of touch? Perhaps an "El Nerdo Dad"? A better question might be, When was the last time they didn’t? Especially as they become teenagers, kids often consider it their duty to point out all the ways we need to change to keep pace with the culture, whether it’s how we talk, our ignorance about the latest technology, or our “fashion” statements.
Friday, October 5, 2007
In the mid-1990's, I was a dad of a teenage daughter and three other children under ten. Through my involvement in various fatherhood events in the Seattle area, I heard about the "Welcome To Fatherhood Party" from a dad named Griggs Irving. The idea came to him when his 32-year-old daughter was happily planning for a baby shower and his fatherly thoughts turned towards his son-in-law. What about Steve? He’s about to be a new dad. What could be done for him? he thought.
Friday, September 28, 2007
A recent survey by CareerBuilder confirms the challenge among working dads to navigate the demands of work and family life. According to the survey, 38% of working dads, if given the choice, would take a pay cut to spend more time with their kids. Nearly one in four working dads (24 percent) feel work is negatively impacting their relationship with their children. Forty-eight percent have missed a significant event in their child's life due to work at least once in the last year, and nearly one in five (18 percent) have missed four or more. Thirty-six percent of working dads say their company does not offer family-friendly work arrangements such as flexible schedules, telecommuting, job sharing and more.
Thursday, September 13, 2007
Everyone has worry and fear in their lives, and as parents this worry and fear is exponentially increased. There are constant questions like, "Are my children healthy?" "Do we have enough money?" "Am I doing a good job?" The list could go on indefinitely, with the worry and anxiety becoming overwhelming at times.
Friday, August 31, 2007
The current generation of fathers has been decimated by the tragedy of divorce. Many men saw their parents divorce, and some have been through a divorce themselves. These men have often told us that they wish they had seen a good marriage in action when they were young. They had a deep desire to see a committed, loving relationship between the two people they loved the most, and they are still missing that model now that they have children of their own.